Tuesday, January 31, 2017

3 Tools for Life

warning...mostly just ranting hahahaha

There's a few things that really irritate me other then the ugly, uneducated stares that we get from people who don't understand autism. Those things are; basic respect for humankind, common sense, and ability to move on! I find that the majority of people on earth, lack these 3 necessary tools so succeed in life, including myself.

Although I *do* have basic respect for humankind, I find far too often "I'm surround by assholes" (anyone who's seen Spaceballs will get it) SERIOUSLY. Why are we so easily offended?? Why do we feel better talking crap about people. Why? WHY? I always feel dirty talking crap about people.  I'll say something that's totally not meant to be malicious or taken any other way but 'open and honest' and almost every single time that person gets offended, or has to have the last word. I've learned to let these people think their right, just sit back and listen. (the majority of ppl who act this way, most likely have experienced trauma and just want/need the extra attention and to be listened too) I will love and support you but I will not coddle you.

 Not only is this world falling apart, I'm terrified that I have to teach my kids to survive in today's society. Especially one being autistic. Man, people are so damn judgmental, and so quick to do so too.  Right off the bat, just by looking at you, people know exactly who you are and what your about without even speaking...its crap...haven't you ever heard 'never judge a book by its cover"??  Well, I think we should all start living by "never judge a fellow human by their cover" or what you ASSUME you already know.

Common sense is too much to expect nowadays. I walk outside or through the store and see 100 things I could never imagine myself doing, or allowing my children to do. My brain hadn't even thought of the way your doing it. Maybe I'm the odd ball here, but I must say, that's never gonna change.(Thank God)  I see people working harder not smarter. Clearly that's my opinion and I'm sure some disagree, and that's okay!   I just wish for the sake of my children's generations future, everyone gets there act together.

Do you ever feel as you stroll through this thing called life, that you keep getting hung up on things from the past?? You see something that reminds you of....whatever, or get a feeling; that in the past, you were right about... then you almost create it or pick a fight just in spite...(not consciously) Damn, I did it often and I'm proud to say I think I finally figured it out.... how to not let that shit come back and effect me. I don't want to argue, I don't want my friends to be mad at me. I don't want to feel guilt when I think about if I could have prevented Bmans autism...who cares??? He was meant to come to me that way and I wouldnt change him for the world.  I think some of  'the ability to move on' is depicted on who you surround yourself with. Do they make it easy to be honest and blunt, and allow you to feel and express...or do they make you feel reserved because there always judging. Same goes for autism, the more comfortable they are around you, the more open they become. This is a lesson I just learned, super recently actually.  I always tell myself, "You'll never get where your going, if you never leave where you are." just a friendly reminder that not every person you befriend, is meant to stick around, every *asshole* you meet, may have just lost a family member. Every mom staring at me and my kids walking into the store, isn't staring at Bman's flappy hands.

Lets love each other, stop being so judgmental, and dedicate ourselves to raising intelligent, respectful, and adaptable kids; who one day WILL be our future.

Wednesday, January 18, 2017

Set Yourself Up for Success

I'mmmmm bacccckkkk!!! Sorry I've been MIA for so long. So much has happened, happening, is going to happen?? Where do I start? How do I explain, without explaining the last 3 months in a book? Well, we got denied ALTCS *again* ....big surprise right?Got another school eval that should change his status, but everyone is still recovering from the holidays it seems. Get it together people. LOL Bman started OT and ST at a new clinic and we LOVE it there. He's also theee only kid, and I mean the only one who walks in saying "I love OT, thanks Mom." No problem kid, you make me look like a bad-ass. Hahaha, then there's lil Benji, who now is 17 months old. (OMG) lil rascal let me tell you. So full of spunk and attitude, definitely have no idea where he got that from. ;)

Then Thanksgiving and my birthday came along, and time just kept going like it always does. Christmas, it was here so fast too. I felt like right when we got all our decorations up and the lights up outside, it was over and time to put everything away. (Outside lights are still up actually) Cant we all just slow down?? Cant somebody somewhere just change the rules; that a year equals 365 days and then that equals 12 months....can't we add time somehow??? Its going by way too fast. Speaking of Christmas though ....LOOK AT THIS!

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I know you cant really see it all that well, but this my friends, is called a 'Therapy Swing' and boy is it AWESOME! Its a must have in my opinion, for any family who has a kiddo with sensory issues. Bman by *asking*(big deal here folks) asks, "Mom, can I play games in my swing?" Uhhhhhhhhh, YES!! He needs help getting in of course, but once he's in, hes so happy and calm. He never flaps when he's in there. Even if he is playing games.

Another lousy but totally usable excuse for my disappearing is, I had to have surgery...boooo! Umbilical hernia repair surgery because I grow large humans apparently.  All healed fine and I have no restrictions as of now.  Which opens up a whole new jar of worms. (I'll write another post for that jar)

As far as my current goals, I'm want to try really hard to eat like my children. I bend over backwards and slave in the kitchen all day so they have healthy, no dye, blah blah food and I still reach for the crap. Since we have our wedding that's in September, I'd like to set a goal and lose weight before. We just have so much going on, I find it hard to find time. But excuses no more. I have everything I need now to be successful. Not only in regulating my kids sensory needs with his new therapy swing, but also, now after having had the repair surgery, to workout. Ill update everyone on my success as it comes.

So as this year is racing by at full speed already, wish me luck as I wish you luck on your hopes and goals.  I hope you all had a Happy Holiday and I wish nothing but the best for all of you. As for now, me and  the boys are gonna go swing.